Grief over loss of dog
Recently, my wife and I experienced our first dog grief: one of the more excruciating experiences of our lives, the euthanasia of our beloved dog, Murphy.
I remember making eye contact with Murphy moments before she took her last breath. She flashed me a look that was an endearing blend of confusion and the reassurance that everyone was ok because we were both by her side.When people who have never gone through dog grief see their dog-owning friends mourn the loss of a pet, they probably think its all a bit of an overreaction; after all, it’s just a dog. However, those who have loved a dog know the truth: Your own pet is never just a dog.
Many times, I’ve had friends guiltily confide to me that they grieved more over the loss of a dog than over the loss of friends or relatives. Research has confirmed that for most people, dog grief or the loss of a dog is, in almost every way, comparable to the loss of a human loved one.
Unfortunately, there’s little in our cultural playbook no grief rituals, no obituary in the local newspaper, no religious service to help us get through dog grief, which can make us feel more than a bit embarrassed to show too much public grief over our dead dogs.
Perhaps if people realized just how strong and intense the bond is between people and their dogs, such dog grief would become more widely accepted. This would greatly help dog owners to integrate the death into their lives and help them move forward.
An interspecies bond like no other
What is it about dogs, exactly, that make humans bond so closely with them?
For starters, dogs have had to adapt to living with humans over the past 10,000 years. And they’ve done it very well: They’re the only animals to have evolved specifically to be our companions and friends.
Anthropologist Brian Hare has developed the Domestication Hypothesis to explain how dogs morphed from their grey wolf ancestors into the socially skilled animals that we now interact with in very much the same way as we interact with other people.
Perhaps one reason our relationships with dogs can be even more satisfying than our human relationships is that dogs provide us with such unconditional, uncritical positive feedback. (As the old saying goes, May I become the kind of person that my dog thinks I already am.)
This is no accident. They have been selectively bred through generations to pay attention to people, and MRI scans show that dog brains respond to praise from their owners just as strongly as they do to food (and for some dogs, praise is an even more effective incentive than food).
Dogs recognize people and can learn to interpret human emotional states from facial expression alone. Scientific studies also indicate that dogs can understand human intentions, try to help their owners and even avoid people who don’t cooperate with their owners or treat them well.
Not surprisingly, humans respond positively to such unrequited affection, assistance, and loyalty. Just looking at dogs can make people smile. Dog owners score higher on measures of well-being and they are happier, on average than people who own cats or no pets at all.
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